Before you start punishing your child, find out what is the cause of their behaviour. Find a time to sit down with your child and befriend them. Understand the reasons from their perspective instead of the ‘parent’s perspectives’. Analyse if their basic needs are met, and whether they are acting out for attention. The moment your child sense that they will be getting more troubles instead of assurance from their parents, they may withdraw themselves from the situation.
Acknowledge that your child may have certain flaws. While emotions can get the better of you, there must be a certain degree of controlled anger towards your child. Too much anger and your child may feel ridiculed and traumatised; letting the matter rest and you child may repeat the same mistake. Instead of reprimanding them for being wrong wrong, validate the child’s fear and wrongdoings. Let them know that it is acceptable to discuss with you about their troubles.
Some issues faced by your child may be too painful for them to confront and some are hidden in their subconscious. As a result, they might find it hard to express their emotions. If you notice your child is being defensive or resisting, recognize that they are protecting themselves. As parents, you will need to raise the child’s awareness of these issues with proper skill and care to avoid creating further trauma for your child.
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